Your wedding day is a day full of married-couple firsts: your first kiss, your first toast, your first dance. And with that dance comes the all important first dance song — something which often takes couples weeks of debate and effort to choose. Unlike the flavour of your cake or the type of dressing you had on the salad, your first dance and the song played during it are things that you will probably remember for the rest of your life. It’s also something that your guests will remember and talk about too!

 

Not everyone can have Ellie Goulding sing Elton John’s “Your Song” at their wedding like Will and Kate did, but you don’t need a superstar serenading you on the dance floor to have a first dance that becomes a moment to remember. Here’s how to pick the first dance song for your wedding that will make it the special event it ought to be:

 

Make your wedding playlist first.

Even if you have a live band playing at your wedding, chances are you and your partner have a list of songs you want to hear on the wedding day. These will probably be a mixture of old favourites, classics that everyone can dance along to, romantic ballads and songs that are uniquely special to you as a couple. For some suggestions on romantic tunes, check out our top ten favorites below! Then, using an app like Spotify, build a playlist so you can each add songs to it every time you think of one. After a few weeks, spend some time going through it together, weeding out the ones you disagree on. Eventually, you’ll narrow the list down to those songs that absolutely have to be played at your wedding. Your first dance song will be in that list.

 

Figure out what kind of dance you want to have.

You’ve made your playlist and pared down your list of favourites, hopefully to about 15-20 songs that you both adore. Now, have a chat about what kind of dance you’d like to have. What is your personality as a couple? Do you want a playful, upbeat first dance? A smooth, romantic waltz? Something in between? Once you’ve figured out what kind of dance you’re both comfortable with and would enjoy, choose a song with the right beat and lyrics that reflect how you feel for each other.

 

Fred Astaire with Rita Hayworth in You Were Never Lovelier (1942)

Fred Astaire and Rita Hayworth

 

 

 

Les Trois Soeurs' 10 Suggestions:

1. “Thinking Out Loud,” Ed Sheeran

Lyrics we adore: “Take me into your loving arms/Kiss me under he light of a thousand stars/We found love right where we are”

2. "I Won't Give Up," by Jason Mraz

Lyrics we adore: "I won't give up on us/Even if the skies get rough/I'm giving you all my love/I'm still looking up"

3. "A Thousand Years," Christina Perri from Twilight

Lyrics we adore: "Darling, don't be afraid/I have loved you/For a thousand years/I'll love you for a thousand more"

4. "At Last," Etta James

Lyrics we adore: "And here we are in heaven/for you are mine/at last"

5. "Can't Help Falling In Love," Elvis Presley

Lyrics we adore: "Like a river flows surely to the sea/Darling so it goes/some things are meant to be"

6. "Crazy Love," Van Morrison

Lyrics we adore: "I can hear her heart beat for a thousand miles/And the heavens open every time she smiles"

7. "La Vie en Rose," Edith Piaf and Louis Armstrong 

Lyrics we adore: "And when you speak angels sing from above/Everyday words seem/To turn into love songs"

8. "You Got the Love," Candi Staton

Lyrics we adore: You've got the love I need to see me through

9. "It Had to Be You," Dooley Wilson from Casablanca

Lyrics we adore: "And it had to be you, it just had to be you/It had to be you"

10. "I Will," The Beatles

Lyrics we adore: "Love you forever and forever/Love you with all my heart/Love you whenever we're together/Love you when we're apart"

 

It really is as simple as that. Don’t worry about being cliché or picking a first dance song that nobody likes. The point is that you like it, you as a couple. Your first dance is a special moment. Years from now, every time you hear that song, it will transport you back to that moment on the dance floor with the love of your life.